Child Behavior
Children's behavior almost always has a purpose or at least a reason. Changing a child's behavior requires understanding why it occurs, and that takes effort and good communication.
Child Behavior Problems
- Abusive & Violent Behavior
- Anger & Defiance
- Backtalk & Attitude
- Bullying
- Lying
- Manipulation
- Arguing & Fighting
- Self-esteem
- Power Struggles
- Substance Abuse & Risky Behavior
- Sibling Rivalry
- Disrespect
- Aggression
- Yelling & Swearing
- Outbursts & Temper Tantrums
- School & Homework
Normal behavior in children depends on the child's age, personality, and physical and emotional development. A child's behavior may be a problem if it doesn't match the expectations of the family or if it is disruptive. Normal or "good" behavior is usually determined by whether it's socially, culturally and developmentally appropriate. Knowing what to expect from your child at each age will help you decide whether his or her behavior is normal.
For some behavior, parents can implement a behavior modification program. This approach involves modifying both the child's and the parent's behavior. It works by discouraging negative behavior, encouraging and supporting positive behavior and setting appropriate expectations for meeting goals and time guidelines.
When a child's behavior is identified as problematic and is to be modified it is important to clearly communicate to the child that the behavior is inappropriate or unacceptable. Explain and even demonstrate appropriate, alternative behavior that is acceptable. Clearly communicate to the child so they are able to understand that if the behavior occurs again they will be given a warning and then will lose a privilege. If the behavior recurs, carry out the consequences or punishment that had been promised.
Punishment and consequences need to be appropriate to the behavior and the child's age and abilities and of course should not be excessive. Punishments (as well as rewards) need to occur soon after the behavior in order to reduce the problem in the future. Thus, a child's punishment should be to lose a privilege that day or the next, not the next month. Effective behavior modification involving disciplining and rewarding require that the parents be in agreement or at least not interfere with or undermine each others priorities or efforts.
There are many behavior modification principles that can be utilized in counseling to either help stop inappropriate behavior, develop a new behavior, strengthen a new behavior, or maintain an established behavior.
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